So the graphs look bad, stop worrying and take action.
Once you acquire the habit of worrying it never seems to let up. As young people, we are told to, “start worrying about your future” and so the process begins.
You begin your first task for the day, but then quickly have the urge to see if there’s something else more important you should be doing. These thoughts crop up every time you sit down to do something, there seem to be a million tasks that need your attention.
Worrying gives us a feeling of uneasiness or being overly concerned about a situation or problem. With excessive worrying, your mind and body go into overdrive as you constantly focus on ‘what might happen’, instead of focusing on your options and taking action. Excessive worry can quickly lead to mental and physical health problems. When pressures, worries and anxiety become excessive, chances are you’ll trigger the stress response in the first instance and this can come from either distress or eustress which is stress caused by you over exerting yourself on the good stuff, the stuff you like doing.
Your two worst enemies
In his book ‘No Excuses! The Power of Self-Discipline’, Brian Tracy talks about the two worst enemies. “Just as self-discipline is the key to success, the lack of self-discipline is the major cause of failure, frustration, under-achievement, and unhappiness in life. It causes us to make excuses and sell ourselves short.
Perhaps the two biggest enemies of success, happiness and personal fulfilment, are first the Path of Least Resistance and second, the Expediency Factor.
The Path of Least Resistance is what causes people to take the easy way in almost every situation. They seek shortcuts to everything. They arrive at work at the last minute and leave at the first opportunity. They look for get-rich-quick schemes and easy money. Over time, they develop the habit of always seeking an easier, faster way to get the things they want rather than doing what is hard but necessary to achieve real success.
The Expediency Factor, which is an extension of the law of least resistance, is even worse when leading people to failure and underachievement. This principle says,
People invariably seek the fastest and easiest way to get the things they want, right now, with little or no concern for the long-term consequences of their behaviours. In other words, most people do what is expedient, what is fun and easy rather than what is necessary for success.
Every day, and every minute of every day, there is a battle going on inside of you between doing what is right, hard, and necessary (like the angel on one shoulder) or doing what is fun, easy, and of little or no value (like the devil on your other shoulder). Every minute of every day, you must fight and win this battle with the Expediency Factor and resist the pull of the Path of Least Resistance if you truly desire to become everything you are capable of becoming”.
How do we stop all the worrying?
You are faced with a lot of choices every day and you make what seems like good choices, but you don’t seem to be able to move you business forward to where you are hoping to get it. This, of course, starts the worry process. You won’t stop worrying if you think it serves you, so it’s a good idea to distinguish the fight-or-flight response and by making this distinction, you’re less likely to overrate the value of worrying. Of course, there is nothing new about worry as these famous quotes testify.
- “Self-discipline is the ability to do what you should do when you should do it, whether you feel like it or not”. Elbert Hubbard
- Lewis Carroll wrote in Alice in Wonderland – Alice came to a fork in the road. “Which road do I take”? she asked. “Where do you want to go”? responded the Cheshire Cat. “I don’t know”, Alice answered. “Then”, said the Cat, “it doesn’t matter which way you go”.
- “I believe God is managing affairs and He doesn’t need any advice from me. With God in charge, I believe everything will work out for the best in the end. So what is there to worry about”. Henry Ford.
- “If you don’t know what you want, you end up with a lot you don’t”. Fight Club
- “It makes no sense to worry about things you have no control over because there is nothing you can do about them. and why worry about things you do control? The activity of worrying keeps you immobilised”. Wayne Dyer.
- “If you can’t sleep, then get up and do something instead of lying there worrying. It’s the worry that gets you, not the lack of sleep”. Dale Carnegie.
- “Don’t worry about the heat, it will last as long as you live”. W.C. Fields
Understand what triggers your worrying
Wouldn’t it be nice if you could be confident in everything you are doing Before we went into business, most of us had someone to tell us what to do? A parent, a teacher, or a boss who would give us tasks and we understood (mostly) what we should be doing. There was little doubt about what we should, or should not be doing, as it was all laid out for us and we simply got on with the job.
Now we are in business and become the boss, things are not so clear-cut, even though we have the power to choose between tasks and projects. We are making choices all day long, with no one to tell us that these choices are correct, or incorrect, until sometime after the event.
The worry comes because you want to be doing everything right and you certainly don’t want to make any mistakes. Unfortunately, we don’t always have the facts or can see the final outcomes, we just have to take action and do our best. Of course, if we make mistakes this is when we learn and grow in our decision-making capacity.
Choose the important things that really matter
If you are doing your best, you will be so busy that you won’t have any time left to worry and you certainly don’t have time to worry whether you’re doing the right thing or not.
You see other successful people making things happen and imagine them to be making clear choices, and this adds to your worry about how you are going to get into a position like them. Years ago, I was taught by some American farm machinery dealers that worrying about what others are doing, particularly you competitors, is futile. You know, or should know, what your financial capacity is and your ability to manage your resources to make a profit, so keep focusing on what you have and what you can do best, not the other person, or business.
Become an action orientated person and simply focus on achieving the things that are important to you and the business and delegate, or outsource the rest.
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One of the most common and destructive things that I come across is people get caught up in the habit of worrying.
Unfortunately, many of the people who cross my path are riddled with worry. For years now I have said to many of them, “what you need is a big ‘worry truck’ to come and take away your worries.
As far as I am concerned worry never achieved anything, but taking action will Winston Churchill once said, ” I never worry about action, but only inaction, and isn’t that the root cause of most frustration and worries”.