Your family and friends will be your greatest supporters if you let them.
You don’t have cope on your own
Never feel that you are alone and have to cope on your own. Counsellors, advisors, coaches, facilitators and mentors are all great at helping to build and develop your coping skills.
They are usually external to your business but can be good to talk to if you feel embarrassed with the people you know or if your problems are making it hard to carry on with day to day stuff. A good life is when you smile a lot, dream big, and realise just how fortunate you really are.
How you might start to cope better
Take your family and friends along with you, keep them informed about what is going on and how you would appreciate their support. Nothing really works if you have to cope with bad relationships or you would rather be doing something else.
Focusing on coping should be a high priority and having good people around you and supporting you is most beneficial. Without them, even the best ideas can be useless.
Hatred and fear are the most destructive forces on earth. They do the most damage to those trying to cope. As my father-in-law used to say, “an empty house is better than a bad tenant”. As you constantly attempt to stay true to the values that have become a part of your life and act in a manner consistent with those values, you can find peace of mind, happiness, and success in life.
You don’t have to do everything at once
I would always recommend creating a one-page business plan first, https://goo.gl/OpxiUR. Your efforts and courage may not be enough if you don’t have a purpose or a clear direction for your future. Make sure your business model works well all day every day and your value chain becomes consistent with your values. You want your value chain to be delivering what is needed to provide good customer experiences and service. An important part of coping is not to have customers complaining all the time.
Choose the principles you want to guide you in your business and your life. Write them down in your journal and refer to them often. They will help you to look for something positive in each day, even if some days you have to look a little harder.
While training is very important it tends to be associated with the past, look to improving your knowledge and skills focusing on the future you really want.
“My troubles and obstacles, have strengthened me. A kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you”. Walt Disney
Gratitude does not come easily for most people because focusing attention on what you want or need is easier than acknowledging what you have received. If you strive to maintain a healthy balance in your relationship with others, develop an active sense of gratitude.
Life is a precious, and it can offer you the opportunities you yearn for, but it is difficult if you’re not coping. Awesome things come to those who can focus on the positive aspects of their business and their lifestyle. Count their blessings, find humour in what they do and above all never give up. No one is going to come to your home and suddenly make your dreams come true, so developing your coping strategies can work wonders.
Live the journey, not the destination
Defining your activities is always easier when you have a clear vision of the success you want in life. The key is to be crystal clear on what is most important to you and then plan your life and activities around it. People who know where they are going and how they are going to get there have far fewer problems and frustrations and find coping easier.
The happiest people are the ones who consciously decide to enjoy their lives each day. Often it can be a simple technique such as thinking more positively or being more grateful for what you have in your life. Whatever it is you choose to do, make it a habit to be happy about it as often as possible.
Instead of thinking in terms of days, weeks, months or years try thinking of your life as one long journey of discovery, happiness and success. Set aside time in blocks and go all out, do not let procrastination, the greatest success killer, get in your way. Not only do you need to manage your time and resources, you should help others to do the same.
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Taking a longer-term perspective helps you to keep going through the tough times and makes everything have more meaning.
Obstacles, barriers, problems and mountains are put in our way to help us learn how to climb even higher, to achieve more in life.
Your goals and plans along the way are your smaller intentions. I find it is always better to move 100 things forward just a little bit than to focus on moving one thing forward with a full-time effort, particularly when your life is the overall journey and your health is at stake.