Avoid constant worries. Fear can put you in and keep you in a rut for many years until life is over.
Suck it up and get on with it is not the answer
Fear is very common in any size organisation facing hard times. However, it is not good business to show fear as it sends the wrong signal and can cause people to lose faith in you. Fear is a reality of leadership so how you manage fear is important.
It is far better to remember a simple process to manage fear
- Be clear in your mind what it is that you’re fearful about.
- Become aware of your self-talk. What are you saying to yourself that you fear?
- Exaggerate the bad consequences of your fear to minimise its importance.
- Visualise yourself handling the situation in an acceptable manner.
- Take the first steps to expose yourself to the fear until it no longer exists.
Here are some other suggestions to help you manage fear and worries
Be realistic. Carefully analyse your expectations. Use others to help you maintain objectivity and perspective. Often the unknown can be more fearful than the known. It can be like jumping into a cold swimming pool. The longer you leave it the harder it gets to act.
Talk about your fears. Talk it out with your family, friends, or colleagues. You can role play the scenario with them as a means of gaining perspective. Invite them to ask you questions as often the simple act of speaking out loud can clarify and diminish your fear.
“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear”. Nelson Mandela
Seek out an inspirational solution. Find an outlet to release the hold you fear has over you. Exercise is always good. Keeping yourself fit is healthy tends to minimise fears. Some find hope in their faith, others find it in doing something completely different like volunteering for a local non-profit organisation.
Relax and unwind. You must do everything you can to abandon the fear mindset. Make light of the situation you are fearful of and diminish its importance.
Don’t give in to fear, your life is too important to be having constant worries
Fear is a reality when dealing with tough times, but how you manage it is the measure of management and leadership skills.
If you surrender to your fear you compromise your ability to lead and you are probably no longer capable of working out how to resolve the issues and take the necessary actions.
Standing up to fear, acknowledging its presence, and resolving to move forward, sometimes requires some discipline and courage.
Imagine if your life were like a movie. How amazing would it be if someone could yell, “cut” whenever you were fearful and you’d be able to redo every moment in your life until the fear no longer existed?
Unfortunately, you only have one life to live. And there are no second chances so the sooner you master the management of your fears the better.
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When I have been fearful I often it very helpful to talk to a family, a close friend or colleague about my fears.
It’s amazing how a fear can sometimes disappear after a conversation with someone you trust. Always keep in mind that a problem shared is a problem halved.
If you want to conquer your fears, don’t run and hide. Immediately take some actions, no matter how small and keep taking action until the fear goes away.
If you have concerns with talking about your fears, always engage and advisor or health professional.