What’s going on in that mind of yours, good thoughts or bad thoughts?
Becoming a better leader and put the pedal to the metal
If you going to accomplish your goals and dreams and inspire others to accomplish their goals and dreams, you must be able to control your thoughts and become more of a thought leader.
To become a better leader, you need to become the type of person who is more committed, more consistent, more confident, more determined, more disciplined and bolder, who is more caring and inspiring, present, energetic and focused.
That is quite a lot of things to take care of never mind make into automatic habits. However, those key mindset will skyrocket your aspirations.
Are your goals leading to the right thoughts holding you back?
Did you know there are ‘safe’ goals and there are ‘risky’ goals and there are goals that skyrocket your ideas and opportunities and there other goals that will simply maintain the status quo?
A safe goal is one where even if you fail, your world won’t end the next day. But when you pursue a risky goal you’ll either fly higher than you ever thought possible, or you could crash and burn trying to achieve it.
Of course, the achievements lie at the end of risky goals, not at the end of a goal that maintains the status quo.
“While one person hesitates because he feels inferior, the other is busy making mistakes and becoming superior”. Henry Link
When you set your mind to going all out for that dream lifestyle, even if you experience setbacks or even failure, you will still end up a far stronger person and ready for the next challenge. Your mind would have used your past knowledge and experience to plot your journey and even though it can bring new information and ideas to the fore it can still let you down
However, what does happen, your mind stores all the things that led you to where you finished up, but it learned along the way. It learned the good, the bad and the ugly and now it is better equipped to handle the next challenge.
This is something many people still don’t appreciate. Mistakes and failures are out best teachers and without them, you can only look forward to a very mediocre life. Playing it safe has rarely achieved anything.
Experiment to stimulate more breakthroughs
When you experiment you start to enable new ways of working and developing new ideas and opportunities start to become apparent. By creating, faster and more through experimentation, and testing, you can also minimise failure, or at least failures will simply become your stepping stones.
Enabling co-creation with customers and suppliers, and by utilising emerging technologies, breakthroughs can become a regular occurrence. A lack of collaboration and modern technologies could be amongst the biggest things holding you back.
Implementing new technologies, tools and processes require attention to a host of management issues, from decisions about investment to attention to resources to support breakthroughs and opportunities as they happen.
Your experimentation and exploring can quickly lead to better designs and to do things in new and better ways as your brain grapples with the new situations. You will probably need to be constantly improving your business model, business plan and value chain in order to keep up with the new reality.
“To avoid situations in which you might make mistakes may be the biggest mistake of all”. Peter McWilliams
You only have one mind, so look after it
If you want to have your mind focused on taking to the future you want and not hold you back, you need to keep feeding it. Psychologists say that the person who tries to keep everyone happy often ends up feeling the loneliest and most deprived.
All too often we let the mistakes, failures and rejections of our past dictate every move we make. We literally do not know ourselves to be any better than what some opinionated person or narrow circumstance once told us was true.
Of course, when you have been rejected it doesn’t mean we aren’t good enough, it just means some person or circumstance from your past didn’t align with your thoughts at the time. Unfortunately, we forgot to feed our mind with a flourish of new and positive vibes.
“What do you first do when you learn to swim? You make mistakes, do you not? And what happens? You make other mistakes, and when you have made all the mistakes you possibly can without drowning – and some of them many times over – what do you find? That you can swim? Well – life is just the same as learning to swim! Do not be afraid of making mistakes, for there is no other way of learning how to live”. Alfred Adle
Even though we intellectually know that we’re stronger than we were in the past, our subconscious mind often forgets that our capabilities have grown. Don’t be like the elephant in the zoo.
The zookeeper straps a thin chain to an elephant’s leg and then attaches the other end to a small peg in the ground. The 10-tonne elephant could easily snap the chain, uproot the peg and escape to freedom with minimal effort.But it doesn’t. In fact, the elephant never even tries.
It’s because when the elephant was a baby, its trainers used exactly the same methods. A chain was tied around its leg and the other end of the chain was tied to a stake. The chain and stake were strong enough for the baby elephant.
When it tried to break away, the chain would pull it back. Sometimes, it would pull harder but the chain would hold. Soon, the baby elephant realised it was futile trying to escape. It stopped trying.
The world’s most powerful animal, which can uproot a tree as easily as you could break a toothpick, remains defeated by a small peg and a flimsy chain. The elephant’s mind was programmed when it was a baby and its mind has not been fed any new information to make it think differently.
If you think about it, we are all like elephants. We all have incredible power inside us. Certainly, we have our own chains and stakes, the self-limiting thoughts and beliefs that hold you back. Sometimes it’s a childhood experience or an old failure. Sometimes it’s something we were told when we were a little younger.
The key thing to realise is this. You need to learn from the past, but be ready to update what you learned based on how our circumstances have changed. In other words, we have to learn to feed our minds and think better about the past and present, so we can ultimately live better from here on out.
Tell your mind that the time to act is now
Life is slipping away. You keep putting things off because it’s not the ‘right’ time yet. You need to make a few more improvements, get more experience, learn a few more skills. You wait for the economy to improve, the weather to get better or for a sign that you should start.
Don’t let your mind play tricks on you, feed it a few more positives. The right time is now. Only by starting will you discover what else needs to be done or improved, which never happened before. I am constantly amazed at how people and resources come out of the blue when a person makes a decision to act.
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The power of fear never ceases to amaze me. It can control people’s entire lives and they never realise their full potential. I would hate to live in a constant state of fear and struggle, and it doesn’t have to be that way for anybody. The rest of your life is waiting for you o, so why don’t you go for it?
The fear of failure is arguably the most debilitating and holds most people back from a life where they can follow their dreams. Failure isn’t going to kill you or cause physical harm, it’s a defence mechanism. The good news is that it will teach you things you need to know to put you on the right path to the future you want.
There’s an old saying that says life is the hardest teacher because she gives you the test before the lesson. Failure is a necessary component of success. It is not possible to really succeed without failing first.
By simply shifting your perception of failure as something to be avoided to something that is here to help you and teach you the path to success, failure can become your best collaborator.
Start changing the conversations you are having, become action orientated and watch the things holding you back start to dissipate.