Suck it up and get on with it is not always an option.
Treat the doldrums as an important warning sign, danger ahead
The doldrums, stress, pressure, sadness, melancholy, dejection, loneliness, self-pity, despair, despondency, pessimism, negativity, they all add up to the same thing, poor performance which can lead to poor health and well-being.
Many people can find themselves in the doldrums because of health problems, poor business decisions or because of family and other relationship issues. It’s easy to lose sight of your purpose and making your dreams come true.
Some often think they are not good enough to, or it’s not worthwhile to respond positively to the situation they find themselves in.
But those who do are able to keep their lives moving forward:
- They understand that life is too short and just get on with it. They appreciate life and why it is necessary to make every minute count.
- They are the ones who have a purpose with a clear vision. They have spent the time understanding clearly what they want and need to accomplish and by when.
- The are responsible for their actions. If things go wrong in their lives, they bear the brunt, they don’t blame others.
- They take charge and make things happen. They don’t wait around for someone to do it for them so they focus on what needs to be done.
- They know other people’s opinions are often confused. Life is constantly changing and they know most other people are always behind in finding new opportunities.
- They have a firm resolve to achieve their vision and objectives. Reaching their vision is more important than any current roadblocks they may be facing.
- They understand it takes perseverance and patience. They know that turning any situation around always has its difficulties
- They are self-motivated. They don’t necessarily base their decisions on other people’s opinions, they know how to turn the key in their ignition.
- They avoid negative people. They know that negativity is a killer of progress and seek the support of people with positive attributes.
“No matter how much it gets abused, the body can restore balance. The first rule is to stop interfering with nature”. Deepak Chopra
- They have something worthwhile still to achieve. It might be to have the satisfaction of finishing what they started, or ensuring their family remains secure.
- They surround themselves with people who can help. They don’t need anyone’s approval to take action, but they seek good advice.
- They are consistent. They know others can rely on their consistency because it builds trust and understanding.
- They have a fierce determination not to be beaten by anything. They have the ‘killer’ instinct that helps them to smash through the barriers.
- They know what is best for them. They know what they are good at and like doing. They understand their passion and their strengths.
- They seek a positive environment to express their ideas. After a crisis, they clear the decks and build a better environment in which to work.
- They know things will never be the same again. They, therefore, adjust their lives to deal with whatever the circumstances might be.
- They know they cannot please everybody so they don’t try to. First, they focus on what they want, along with the wants and needs of their family and supporters.
- They have learned to handle the frustrations and problems of life. They don’t have a ‘victim’ mentality and understand life always has its ups and downs.
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Call it what you like, the doldrums, stress, pressure, sadness, melancholy, dejection, loneliness, self-pity, despair, despondency, pessimism, negativity, they all add up to the same thing.
We all have these feelings from time to time and each time we need to take steps to snap out of it as there are few people who will be able to really support you. If the doldrums persist and nobody can motivate you, then you should consult your health professionals as quickly as possible.