You take a look at your to-do list, everything seems to be happening at once.
How will you cope
” I can’t possibly do all that today and I have to go to the dentist and the funeral of my best friend”. If you are like most people you would feel stressed out and overwhelmed. Something needs to be done before it impacts on your health and well-being.
It’s quite common to feel overwhelmed sometimes, to the point where you feel like everything is just too hard and you can’t cope anymore. It is often difficult to work out why you are feeling overwhelmed as you continue to battle on, so take a break, find a nice quiet place to relax, think and reflect on the real issues impacting you work and your life.
Some of the more common reasons people become overwhelmed
The primary trigger of overwhelm is usually the feeling of too much to do and no idea where to start.
- You have a bad conflict with values and trust.
- You are just be feeling run down, too much work, too many parties, too much fun.
- Perhaps too many projects on your plate and new ones keep piling up.
- You have become overwhelmed because of negativity and negative thinking.
- Too many issues with your relationships at home or at work?
- You have set your expectations beyond your capacity and ability.
- You have just been given an opportunity and your current situation becomes boring.
- Someone is always on your back, you are being micro-managed.
- You’re afraid, you don’t know how to face a big problem or frustration.
- Suddenly you feel over-committed and feel like you’re performance will suffer.
- You feel excluded don’t know what’s happening around you.
- Someone has shattered your self-confidence.
- You feel like no one listens or cares about you or your business anymore.
You may have always been able to keep up with the fast pace and high expectations you have set for yourself, but now it’s time to take stock of your career and lifestyle. Beating yourself up won’t help, in fact, it will only make things worse.
When you’re in overwhelm, you can only see all that is left to do, not what you have achieved. It’s important that you review all your achievements and successes. Perhaps you have forgotten how important it is to celebrate your little wins and successes.
“Instead of staring at the amount you have on your plate, it makes better sense to stop, prioritise what your issues are and seek to address them immediately. Action orientation is the universal cure-all “. Peter Sergeant
How to breakthrough when you feel overwhelmed
When everything seems to be out of control, feeling overwhelmed is quite normal. You just need to figure out how to tackle problems and cope with things that aren’t going your way.
- Figure out the real problems and write them down clearly.
- What can you change and how fast can you change them?
- Prioritise the seriousness of the issues involved.
- How will you make the changes?
- Learn about coping skills, it may be you just need some new techniques.
By identifying the things that are contributing to you being overwhelmed will allow you to work out how to deal with issues involved and move past this overwhelming feeling. It’s just a feeling and is well pass if you make the right changes in you working environment and with your relationships. If you can’t change it, it’s not sometimes you have to accept, seek professional help.
Learn how to delegate. Better still learn how to outsource all the non-core activities you are currently dealing with. There is no point trying to do everything by yourself, you are a finite resource.
Don’t forget to ask your friends, colleagues and your network who may be able to help you. People have big hearts and often happy to roll up their sleeves to help someone out, but you have to be humble enough to ask people to help you.
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These are the words I pass on to my grandchildren when they ask me about how to be successful, or how to start a meaningful business or build a purposeful life.
- Write things down, use your head as a backup.
- Work to your strengths and love what you do.
- Always be sure you have a clear direction for the future and align everything with it.
- Looking after your health must be a priority.
- Keep your business small and controllable. Eat an elephant one mouthful at a time.
- Always involve your family they are your best supporters.
- Avoid negativity and negative people.
- If you are going to bite off more than you can chew, then chew like buggery.
If you often feel overwhelmed, and nothing seems to work for you, there might be something more serious preventing you from feeling able to cope, seek immediate professional help, looking after your health and well-being is critical.