A trip into the country was always a way to control my stress and improve my outlook.
Find a nice place to relax, think and reflect on your life
what it has been like, what it is like today and what you would like it to be like in the future. Concentrate on things you should be grateful for, not on the negative, bad and ugly things.
Any coping strategy which isn’t harmful over the long-term, or is effective is worth a try. However, you will probably find that some strategies work better than others in terms of how well they reduce both your distress and eustress levels and help you manage them.
To find the best coping strategies for you, start with a list of situations that cause you stress and you find difficult to manage, use a journal for this purpose. Then, when a stressful situation arises, you are able to quickly find a coping strategy to use.
Add notes to your journal on how the strategy you chose worked best for you, and how good it was handling your situation at the time. Use the following coping strategies to get you started on finding the best ones for you.
Matters of the heart
Fortunately, I have not had to cope with a marriage breakdown or an untimely death of a loved one. However, the death of my father at age 62 was a very stressful few month for me. We were close and he was my first real mentor which made coping much harder.
The old expression “suck it up and get on with it” is very outdated. If you are grieving then you should seek guidance on how to reduce the pain and you should if the pain persists.
Develop your core values
Ensure your values are consistent with the people you want to associate with and you will cope better with all the ups and downs. Know what your core values are and focus on having congruent values with all the relationships you have. An important key to coping well is to surround yourself only with people you like, people who can uplift you and whose presence brings out the best in you.
Good people will improve your coping skills by providing you with objectivity and perspective. You will find that this will enable you to respond more realistically to the events and opportunities in your life. Seek out people who can inspire you taking you out of the doldrums, sometimes it’s as simple as a simple.
Manage your time well
Time is your most valuable asset, and how you spend it, and who you spend it with, will directly impact on you coping and achieving your aspirations. Most people manage their time poorly. As a consequence, they feel guilty, frustrated and their problems tend to mount and overwhelm them. They have not bothered to learn how to manage their time, which in itself is a great coping mechanism. You should avoid people who can’t manage their time as they add to your stress levels.
“Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success”. Dale Carnegie
Be warned about eustress
I was over fifty when I learned about eustress (Good Stress). All my lif,e with the exception of a few short months here and there, has been enjoyable. I did understand the damage eustress could cause. I had no idea that eustress could do just as much damage as distress.
Put good stress (eustress) into your life. A person who is experiencing no stress is also experiencing no challenges and is very unlikely to achieve their aspirations. But be aware that good stress (eustress) can be as damaging and debilitating as distress.
If you have accumulated money and resources in your life try giving something back to your community or those less fortunate. You will be amazed how your capacity for coping will dramatically increase.
Make adequate rest a priority
Rest, relaxation and recreation are necessary to restore vigour to your body. Without it comes more stress and consequently, most diseases are caused by or made worse by excessive stress.
The cessation of work, exertion, or activity which can result in peace of mind, relief from disturbance, is always beneficial in coping with life, in general. Mental and emotional tranquillity are vital in developing your coping mechanisms. Some minor illnesses can be cured by just resting, your bodies have a marvellous way of healing themselves. It becomes harder to stop taking more ‘pills’ if you’re always tired.
Sleep is nature’s way of restoring and invigorating a tired body and prepare it for the next day. Adequate rest will not only help you sleep better, it will improve your problem-solving and decision-making ability. It will also make you a nicer person to be around.
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Healthy business healthy life or is it the other way around?
If you feel unhealthy you will always find it more difficulty coping. Eating well, exercising and getting plenty of sleep will not only increase your energy level, improve your time management, but you will find coping much easier. When you are under pressure drinking soft drink and eating biscuits will not improve your ability to cope.
Over the years I have always found when I’m under pressure my productivity goes down and my stress levels rises. I have found that in a 50-hour working week I can accomplish much more if I am stress-free than if I put in over 70 or 80 hours.
Tiredness tends to cause me stress. It’s easier to work long hours without stress if you are doing basic repetitive or simple tasks. But, when it comes to leadership, and management tasks the stress levels can rise much faster and you tire more easily. I find brain work and related tasks much more tiring than physical work.