Make use of the early morning, it will help you to relax, think, reflect and plan to cope better.
Copping can only come when you have the courage to face fear and adversity and still go forward with the lifestyle you want.
There are many business people not coping with the fast paced changes involved with a modern business in a globalised world. This is leading to unnecessary business failures and major health consequences.
It’s inevitable, no matter how well run your business is, unexpected problems emerge, setbacks occur, and crises arise unexpectedly. The difference between success and failure during these crucial moments is coping while knowing you will ultimately achieve your aspirations.
A good family, nice home, successful business and plenty of money in the bank doesn’t guarantee you won’t be faced with worry and stressful situations that you must cope with. In fact, I know a lot of wealthy people who are decidedly unhappy, despite their money.
However, you can change your emotion immediately by thinking of something you like or revisiting a successful experience. Refocusing on your vision, making it clearer, as a result, it too can also have a very beneficial impact.
“Resilience isn’t a single skill. It’s a variety of skills and coping mechanisms. To bounce back from bumps in the road as well as failures, you should focus on emphasising the positive”. Jean Chatzky
During my upbringing, I was always exposed to people with positive attitudes. Fortunately, it has given me a lifetime of good attitudes and has given me a positive and optimistic outlook.
By having a good attitude, you don’t dwell on the bad aspects of your business, your relationships or your lifestyle. You allow yourself to enjoy the good in what life has to offer. With a bad attitude, you waste yours as well as everyone else’s time worrying about the past or stressing about the future.
Positive coping strategies are any actions you take to manage and reduce the stress in your life. People who use positive strategies are better at coping and tackling challenges. Consequently, they bounce back from tough times and have a much happier lifestyle.
The old expression “suck it up and get on with it” is very outdated. If you are grieving then you should seek guidance on how to reduce the pain and you should if the pain persists.
There are some common misconceptions about success to deal with:
- We think success is impossible, so we criticise it. We want to believe life should be easy, so we assume anything difficult must be impossible. Then when success eludes us we throw in the towel and say, ‘Who needs it anyway?’ And if someone we consider less deserving than ourselves is successful, we get really upset.
- We think success is mystical, so we search for it. Seth Godin says: “We need to stop shopping for lightning bolts”. You don’t win an Olympic medal with a few weeks of intensive training. There’s no such thing as an overnight opera sensation.
- We think success comes by chance, so we hope for it. We say, ‘Oh, he or she just happened to be in the right place at the right time.’ The chances of that happening are about as good as the chances of winning Lotto—over eight million to one. If you’re serious about succeeding, you’ll concur with the small-business owner who posted this sign in his store: ‘The 57 Rules of Success: Rule one: Deliver the goods. Rule two: The other 56 don’t matter!’
Great businesses and great lifestyles don’t spring up overnight. Every great thing has been built in exactly the same way. Bit by bit, step by step, little by little. There are no shortcuts, you must be willing to pay the price.
Note: If you feel you are depressed or not able to cope by yourself, seek professional help immediately. Mental health can be a big issue if left untreated.
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There is no doubt in my mind that stress has been the main contributor to the problems and frustrations I have had in my life. I have experienced most of the main stressors involved in starting businesses, running businesses, employees and other relationship problems. Along with droughts, market failures, dumping, business failures, competition, coping with new technology as well as some major health problems.
I have found that what most people worry about never happens, they just lose a lot of valuable sleep. Fortunately, I have always had strong family support and I know this is the biggest factor in helping people to cope.
As an entrepreneur I found it easy to move from one project or problem to another, but, when I had to manage the detail I always had difficulty coping. This means it is important to understand your temperament as well as the people you work with.
Every good thing that happens in your business or life will be a direct result of you changing something. Worrying is like having a car with a flat tyre. It’ll give you something to do but won’t get you very far until you fix it.
Often I had to take control of my emotions before they took control of me, turning a potentially good situation into a bad one. It is the ups and downs, the highs and lows and learning to cope that has given me the success and lifestyle I enjoy today.